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\u201cNow, should we treat women as independent agents, responsible for themselves? Of course. But being responsible has nothing to do with being raped. Women don\u2019t get raped because they were drinking or took drugs. Women do not get raped because they weren\u2019t careful enough. Women get raped because\u00a0someone raped them.<\/em>\u201d \u00a0Jessica Valenti, The Purity Myth: How America’s Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young Women<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Because the words “Don’t be such a girl.” are the gravest of insults.<\/p>\n

\u201cEquality is not a concept. It’s not something we should be striving for. It’s a necessity. Equality is like gravity. We need it to stand on this earth as men and women, and the misogyny that is in every culture is not a true part of the human condition. It is life out of balance, and that imbalance is sucking something out of the soul of every man and woman who’s confronted with it. We need equality. Kinda now.\u201d \u00a0Joss Whedon<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Because it’s the second decade of the 21st century.<\/p>\n

\u201cI want a Zero Tolerance policy on All The Patriarchal Bullshit.\u201d Caitlin Moran, How To Be a Woman<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Because…<\/p>\n

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